There’s nothing more stressful and aggravating when starting a new relationship than getting involved with a man who plays nothing but games. It leaves you confused and puzzled and can have you questioning your every action. This can get extremely exhausting and at the end of the day no one has time for games. If he likes you and genuinely wants to take things to the next level with you, things wouldn’t be so complicated and it’s as easy as being direct and him putting in the conscious effort. Don’t ignore the warning signs of a true game player.

Pattern of Inconsistency

When you are investing your time and effort into someone you deserve the same in return.   When he starts to show inconsistency, you know the games are only beginning. When facts don’t match up, like his age, where he works and just inconsistent information is given, it’s questionable all together and making you think twice about what  his true intentions are.  Not calling when he says he will, standing you up or canceling dates, leaving your read text messages without a response are all signs of lack of interest or perhaps maybe now he’s lost interest and doesn’t want to pursue you anymore or someone else can possibly have his attention.  Some me want you to feel fortunate to receive a call, text or even spend time with them which shouldn’t be the case.  When a man is interested in you, he respects and values your time and will do anything to show you he is far more than interested in you.  Being honest about himself and who he is shows that he wants you to know who he really is and not who you want him to be only to impress you momentarily. There’s no reason to deal with inconsistencies, especially early on in a relationship. It takes a minute or two to respond to a text and if you are somebody he thinks about daily, he wouldn’t hesitate to show you that he cares and that he can’t stop thinking about you.

You’re the Only One Doing All the Chasing

Men are hunters by nature, and the worst thing you want to do is make it easy for them. Let him chase you!   Men value whatever they work hard for.  Let him be the first to call you, text you, invite you out for dinner. Let him make the moves. If you find yourself putting more effort into it more than him, there might be a slight chance that maybe he’s not that into it as you are and why should he bother to put forth any effort if you’re not allowing him to.   After the first few dates you should establish the parameters of the relationship and know where it is going. Don’t turn into a “yes girl” by making yourself available to him whenever he wants, blow up his phone with texts with no respond, showing up at his house or work just to see him when he hasn’t even returned your call in 2 days… You’re doing too much and you’re only making your self seem desperate.  Let him know you have a life too and he should be the one pursuing you and chasing you.   Believe me, there is a woman out there he’s putting effort towards.  While your sitting there chasing him, he’s chasing who he really wants and once that fails, he will be back playing even more games with you.  Move on to the next because nobody has time to chase down a man who doesn’t want to caught.  You’re the prize, not him.

Types of Men that Play Games

The typical man that plays games are men who are insecure,  may have low self esteem, aren’t stable and men who aren’t ready to commit.  Most men use mind games to manipulate you and to gain control of the situation  because it’s the only way they can keep you interested.  Some might only like the attention you give them and like how you boost their ego and the way you make them feel but they may have no intentions of ever letting it go further than that. Another type of man would be a man who is already committed, in a relationship or married and who may be lacking the affection and attention they are missing in their current relationship and are just looking for someone to entertain them and fill that  missing void.  There are men out there who value woman and are more than happy to give you what you deserve and show you the consistency and attention you deserve from a true relationship.

Don’t entertain his games and if he isn’t putting forth the effort you desire, he’s not the one for you.  At the end of the day, two really can play at that game, only if you decided to play the game with him.  If he really wants to pursue you on a serious, respectful level and is interested in you, there will be no games.  He will be consistent with his actions, open about his past and true to who he really is. He will work on making you apart of his future. Let him play his game with someone else and show him that you are above and beyond all that.

Xo ❤